Yes, the title rhymes.
Anyways, I just remembered a principle I usually forget: Complimenting people!
I am not very good at complimenting people. Or myself, for that matter. When I compliment people, it's sincere and simple... but also pretty rare. Anyways, I've been receiving lots of compliments lately. And it's amazing how some of them I take with 0 grace and how others just turn my day right-side-up. I remembered a change I made when I was 18; a senior in high school. I started just telling every girl how cute they looked that day. I didn't even have any intentions, but I noticed that it made most of them feel better. Now folks: There are plenty more types of compliments to give people. I've always known this, and I apply it at random. I'm not even that nice to girls these days. I understand the principle of complimenting others, but I suck at it.
In the past week, people have complimented on my sculpturing, my guitar playing, my bass guitar playing, my work ethic, my looks, and (the hilarious one) my health. This is a lot. I realized that I've seen some faces light up when I've made recent compliments. But not always. As I get older, I realize there are more people like me who respond to compliments with a "yeah, sure, thanks." \
I have today officially decided to give sincere compliments to others as often as I feel and to seek things to compliment on.
Also, I need to cheer the heck up when people compliment me. Sincere or not, they're trying to be nice. Show them how much you appreciate their compliment.
BE NICE
...By the way, you look GREAT today!
Thursday, December 11, 2014
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Lonsdale Quay
I wish I could take you to Lonsdale Quay
We could walk on the boardwalk and take the ferry
Come in December, see their big ol' Christmas tree
Be there with me on Lonsdale Quay
Buy expensive pizza, feed some to the birds
Democrats in baseball caps, using fancy words
Beggars on benches sleep under newspapers
Across the bay, you can see the skyscrapers
I wish I could go back to Lonsdale Quay
East of Capilano, west of the factory
I recall being relieved of some anxieties
Just from walkin' 'round Lonsdale Quay
Sea water scent and discontent
A wincing face in the marketplace
The guy in a tie who used to be me
Smiling inside on Lonsdale
On Lonsdale Quay
F Gm7 F//F Gm7 C7//Dm A A# A#7//F Dm C11sus2 F
G G7//C C7//F F7 A#//F Dm Gm7 C7
F Gm7 F//F Gm7 C7//Dm A A# A#7//F Dm C11sus2 F
F//D//Dm A A# A#m//Gm Am A# C//A# C11sus2 F
We could walk on the boardwalk and take the ferry
Come in December, see their big ol' Christmas tree
Be there with me on Lonsdale Quay
Buy expensive pizza, feed some to the birds
Democrats in baseball caps, using fancy words
Beggars on benches sleep under newspapers
Across the bay, you can see the skyscrapers
I wish I could go back to Lonsdale Quay
East of Capilano, west of the factory
I recall being relieved of some anxieties
Just from walkin' 'round Lonsdale Quay
Sea water scent and discontent
A wincing face in the marketplace
The guy in a tie who used to be me
Smiling inside on Lonsdale
On Lonsdale Quay
F Gm7 F//F Gm7 C7//Dm A A# A#7//F Dm C11sus2 F
G G7//C C7//F F7 A#//F Dm Gm7 C7
F Gm7 F//F Gm7 C7//Dm A A# A#7//F Dm C11sus2 F
F//D//Dm A A# A#m//Gm Am A# C//A# C11sus2 F
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Missionary work studyweek
MONDAY; BYU Devotional
"The Approachable Master"
Douglas R. McKinlay (BYU Communications dept)
-The further we get from the Savior, we closer we get to the adversary.
-We come vulnerable when Satan makes us feel alone.
Strategies Satan uses to keep us from the Master:
1. He convinces us that we are unworthy—even through prayer—to enter the presence of the Master.
2. He makes us believe that we can do all things on our own
-"I can do it myself" is the 3-year old tantrum phrase/leaves us out there and alone
THURSDAY: BYU Devotional (2009)
-He outlined the process of decision making by referring to Doctrine and Covenants section 9. Everyone else seemed to be very familiar with this section of the scriptures except me. You are all familiar with it too, but for me, that day, it was pure revelation and provided a pattern for me to receive an answer to my prayers. He read:
TUESDAY: General Conference (2012)
- I start reading a passage of scripture; I ponder what the verse means and pray for inspiration. I then ponder and pray to know if I have captured all the Lord wants me to do. Often more impressions come with increased understanding of doctrine.
-A good sense of humor helps revelation; loud laughter does not. A sense of humor is an escape valve for the pressures of life.
-Careful, quiet speech will favor the receipt of revelation.
-Exercise, reasonable amounts of sleep, and good eating habits increase our capacity to receive and understand revelation.
-An individual who is arrogant or who lets his or her emotions influence decisions will not be powerfully led by the Spirit.
-When we are acting as instruments in behalf of others, we are more easily inspired than when we think only of ourselves. In the process of helping others, the Lord can piggyback directions for our own benefit.
"The Approachable Master"
Douglas R. McKinlay (BYU Communications dept)
-The further we get from the Savior, we closer we get to the adversary.
-We come vulnerable when Satan makes us feel alone.
Strategies Satan uses to keep us from the Master:
1. He convinces us that we are unworthy—even through prayer—to enter the presence of the Master.
2. He makes us believe that we can do all things on our own
-"I can do it myself" is the 3-year old tantrum phrase/leaves us out there and alone
- I memorized this quote from Harvard philosopher James Allen that points out the danger of “going it alone”:
Man is the causer (though nearly always unconsciously) of his[own] circumstances, and that, whilst aiming at a good end, he is continually frustrating its accomplishment by encouraging thoughts and desires which cannot possibly harmonize with that end.
-3. He creates doubt about our own self-worth and our God-given abilities.
4. He gives us a feeling of entitlement.
5. He helps us develop our powers of
-He lives and He wants nothing more than to help us perform well on this playing field of life.
TUESDAY: BYU Devotional
"The Great Plan of Redemption"
Bruce L. Brown (BYU Psychology dept)
-Imagine living in the existentially empty universe portrayed by so many of the nihilistic philosophers of our time. Fortunately for them, as well as for us, they are wrong.
TUESDAY: BYU Devotional
"The Great Plan of Redemption"
Bruce L. Brown (BYU Psychology dept)
-Imagine living in the existentially empty universe portrayed by so many of the nihilistic philosophers of our time. Fortunately for them, as well as for us, they are wrong.
-The Prophet Joseph Smith taught that “when men receive their instruction from Him that made them, they know how He will save them” (Teachings, p. 12)
-Truly the doctrines of the Restoration are from God, and truly they are doctrines of optimism.
-“This is a book written by a Jew to a Jew in a very unself-conscious way.”
WEDNESDAY: General Conference (2001)
"Witnesses Unto Me"
Jeffrey R. Holland
People do not join the Church because of what they know. They join because of what they feel (what they see and want spiritually)
Be genuine. Reach out sincerely. Ask these friends what matters most to them. What do they cherish, and what do they hold dear? And then listen. If the setting is right you might ask what their fears are, what they yearn for, or what they feel is missing in their lives.
If we listen with love, we won’t need to wonder what to say. It will be given to us—by the Spirit and by our friends.
I promise you thatsomething in what they say will always highlight a truth of the gospel about which you can bear testimony and about which you can then offer more.
Joseph Smith: “After all that has been said, [our] greatest and most important duty is to preach the Gospel.”
THURSDAY: BYU Devotional (2009)
"Zion Is the Pure in Heart"
Elaine S. Dalton
-He outlined the process of decision making by referring to Doctrine and Covenants section 9. Everyone else seemed to be very familiar with this section of the scriptures except me. You are all familiar with it too, but for me, that day, it was pure revelation and provided a pattern for me to receive an answer to my prayers. He read:
Behold, you have not understood; you have supposed that I would give it unto you, when you took no thought save it was to ask me. But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right. But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong. [D&C 9:7–9]
I knew that I had to act!
-You may even be asked to run to the point of exhaustion, but by doing so, the warmth of the Lord’s love will preserve you for the great work yet to come.
- Virtue and chastity are inseparably connected. You cannot have one without the other. A return to virtue is a return to purity.
-No wonder Satan has increased the intensity of his attacks. If you can be distracted, delayed, or disqualified from entering into the temples and doing the very work you have been prepared and reserved to do, he wins.
-We live in a world that is concerned about cleanliness and purity—the cleanliness of our air and the cleanliness of our environment, our water, and even our food. Yet society tolerates moral pollution in the form of pornography on billboards, television, and the Internet and in entertainment and other media.
-Do not allow pornography to diminish your personal power. Remain pure so that you can exercise the power of the priesthood with which God has entrusted you.
-Be wise in the days of your probation; strip yourselves of all uncleanness; ask not, that ye may consume it on your lusts, but ask with a firmness unshaken, that ye will yield to no temptation, but that ye will serve the true and living God. [Mormon 9:28]
-We called it our Thanksgiving run, and as we ran we called out things for which we were thankful.
-“Satan wants you to think that you cannot repent, but that is absolutely not true.”14 A return is always possible because of the Savior’s Atonement.
-Seek the companionship of virtuous friends, not virtual friends. Remember, “virtue loveth virtue [and] light cleaveth unto light” (D&C 88:40). This is a relationship scripture. In your pursuit of friendships and an eternal marriage partner, you cannot just make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in another or in an eternal companion. You must be your list at all times and in all things and in all places.
MONDAY: General Conference (1984)
"Live the Gospel"
Gordon B. Hinckley
-I urge the people of the Church, wherever you may be, when you are faced with problems, first to try to solve those problems yourselves. Think about them, study alternatives available to you, pray about them, and look to the Lord for direction.
-Your bishop or branch president is a man of God, called under the authority of the holy priesthood as the shepherd of the flock. It is so much better that you consult with these your local brethren rather than that you write to the General Authorities of the Church, who, in many instances, will simply refer your query back to your bishop or stake president.
-Enjoy your membership in the Church. Where else in all the world can you find such a society?
-“Live the gospel.” That is the greatest challenge we face.
-It is a simple declaration, but encompassed in those few words is a mandate applicable to each of us. -It concerns our home and family life. It concerns our daily work. It concerns our activities and responsibilities as men and women, brothers and sisters, in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As we return to our homes, let us resolve within our hearts to more fully live the gospel.
-“Life is good.” Life in the service of the Lord is good. It is beautiful. It is rewarding.
-Cultivate a spirit of gladness in your homes. Subdue and overcome all elements of anger, impatience, and unbecoming talk one to another.
TUESDAY: General Conference (2012)
"How to Obtain Revelation and Inspiration for Your Personal Life"
Richard G. Scott
-A good sense of humor helps revelation; loud laughter does not. A sense of humor is an escape valve for the pressures of life.
-Careful, quiet speech will favor the receipt of revelation.
-Exercise, reasonable amounts of sleep, and good eating habits increase our capacity to receive and understand revelation.
-An individual who is arrogant or who lets his or her emotions influence decisions will not be powerfully led by the Spirit.
-When we are acting as instruments in behalf of others, we are more easily inspired than when we think only of ourselves. In the process of helping others, the Lord can piggyback directions for our own benefit.
Sunday, November 9, 2014
People As Objects
I have wasted time drinking my breathe, a Holy grail
Tonight, I quit the hard stuff and see beyond veils
I'm used to faking I'm blind then magically turning Christian
I just remembered I have eyes! If you have ears, listen:
Sometimes I fear I've died and gone straight to adulthood
A cell for the children who've dreamed too damn much for their own good
I've always thought of people as objects, as songs
The love is still there, but the beauty just fades 'til it's gone. all. gone.
The sun's a fat fire filling the whole sky with smoke
The only 4-letter word I'm scared to say is "hope"
But tonight, I quit the hard stuff! I take my first step on the stairs
Sit down a little while, I'll play somethin' for ya if. you. care.
People as objects, people as songs
Never forget the...
Tonight, I quit the hard stuff and see beyond veils
I'm used to faking I'm blind then magically turning Christian
I just remembered I have eyes! If you have ears, listen:
Sometimes I fear I've died and gone straight to adulthood
A cell for the children who've dreamed too damn much for their own good
I've always thought of people as objects, as songs
The love is still there, but the beauty just fades 'til it's gone. all. gone.
The sun's a fat fire filling the whole sky with smoke
The only 4-letter word I'm scared to say is "hope"
But tonight, I quit the hard stuff! I take my first step on the stairs
Sit down a little while, I'll play somethin' for ya if. you. care.
People as objects, people as songs
Never forget the...
Thursday, October 30, 2014
Thomas B. Holman (BYU professor of marriage, 2000 BYU devotional)
Matthew 7:3–5: And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
The ABCs of Courtship
*A is the Attraction and Acquaintance stage.
*When the seeking, sending, and receiving is done in sync—in other words, both people are seeking, sending, and receiving the same messages—the couple moves to the B or Build-Up Stage. At this point the couple gets to know each other and checks out the person to see if he or she is the right person for them.
*C stage, the stage of Consolidation, Continuation, and mutual Commitment to the eternal relationship.
*We need to understand not only the ABCs of courtship but also the D and E stages of courtship: Deterioration and Ending. The D and E phases of relationship development are possibly the most difficult to deal with.
“make a decision”
First, be worthy to receive the inspiration you need.
Second, understand the balance between agency and inspiration.
Third, seek multiple witnesses.
Fourth, learn to discern between inspiration, infatuation, desperation, and a desire to please others.
Fifth, the spiritual confirmation needs to come to both parties involved.
The Right Person Is Not Perfect—Yet
We would do well to remember Elder Richard G. Scott’s counsel that mirrors my wife’s comments:
I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife. [“Receive the Temple Blessings,” Ensign, May 1999, 26]
I. Emotional Part of Love
Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
The ABCs of Courtship
*A is the Attraction and Acquaintance stage.
*When the seeking, sending, and receiving is done in sync—in other words, both people are seeking, sending, and receiving the same messages—the couple moves to the B or Build-Up Stage. At this point the couple gets to know each other and checks out the person to see if he or she is the right person for them.
*C stage, the stage of Consolidation, Continuation, and mutual Commitment to the eternal relationship.
*We need to understand not only the ABCs of courtship but also the D and E stages of courtship: Deterioration and Ending. The D and E phases of relationship development are possibly the most difficult to deal with.
“make a decision”
First, be worthy to receive the inspiration you need.
Second, understand the balance between agency and inspiration.
Third, seek multiple witnesses.
Fourth, learn to discern between inspiration, infatuation, desperation, and a desire to please others.
Fifth, the spiritual confirmation needs to come to both parties involved.
The Right Person Is Not Perfect—Yet
We would do well to remember Elder Richard G. Scott’s counsel that mirrors my wife’s comments:
I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife. [“Receive the Temple Blessings,” Ensign, May 1999, 26]
I. Emotional Part of Love
| Immature Love | Mature Love |
| Possessiveness | Lasting Passion |
| Jealousy | Desire for |
| Infatuation | Companionship |
| Preoccupation | Warm Feeling of |
| Anxiety | Contentment |
II. Belief Part of Love
| Immature Love | Mature Love |
| “Love Is Blind” | Commitment |
| External to Us | Trust |
| Beyond Our Control | Sharing |
| Sacrifice | |
III. Behavior Part of Love
| Immature Love | Mature Love |
| Selfish | Create an Environment |
| Lustful | for Growth and |
| Concerned Only | Development |
| with Satisfying | Allows Other Space |
| Own Needs | for Growth |
| Clinging | |
| Overdependent | |
| Demanding of | |
| Obedience |
Friday, October 24, 2014
Reaching (+1 extra verse) (for class)
Kari, I apologize
For actin' up that way
Is your father still alive
And are you still OK?
I didn't mean what I said
In case you couldn't tell
I had always looked ahead
Until I fell
I'm not done
I'm just wond'rin'
I don't know where ya been
Did you ever give in?
For actin' up that way
Is your father still alive
And are you still OK?
I didn't mean what I said
In case you couldn't tell
I had always looked ahead
Until I fell
I'm not done
I'm just wond'rin'
I don't know where ya been
Did you ever give in?
There's that, among other things
But I don't have the time
I can't tell you ev'rything
That's on my mind
Jesus, have you ever felt
That your children get bored;
Riding your conveyor belt
To get sold at your stores ?
Ye may be bought with a price
But can't I just be free?
You think I want paradise
But that's not me
That's not all
I'm just wond'rin'
If there's something to see
Won't ya show it to me?
Is love just getting stressed out
Over things that aren't mine?
If you really have answers
Then I got time
Perry, we met at the church
Your hair was long and brown
Do you still live in PR
Or do you live downtown?
We would talk about the bands
That nobody else knew
Is it true that you're close friends
With Kevin Drew?
I don't know
I'm just reaching
I hate our arguments
Will I see you again?
Is Walter still seeing things?
Hasn't he lost his mind?
If I never hear from you
I guess that's fine
Lisa, please just disregard
The stuff I said and wrote
Back then, life was pretty hard
Tell me, have you lost hope?
Anna, you're not the only
One on SSRIs
Are you not feelin' lonely?
It's in your eyes
I have thought
Of everyone
Cuz I just gotta know
I just gotta know
Hallelujah, how are you?
What are you tryin' to find?
I will tell you ev'rything
If you got time
A Asus2 Bm7 C#m#5 (x2)
D7sus2 D6omit3 C#m#5 Bm11 (x2)
x2
F#m Dsus2 F#m Dsus2 F#m G Dsus2 C#m#5addb2 Bm11
A Asus2 Bm7 C#m#5 (x2)
D7sus2 D6omit3 C#m#5 Bm11 (x2)
But I don't have the time
I can't tell you ev'rything
That's on my mind
Jesus, have you ever felt
That your children get bored;
Riding your conveyor belt
To get sold at your stores ?
Ye may be bought with a price
But can't I just be free?
You think I want paradise
But that's not me
That's not all
I'm just wond'rin'
If there's something to see
Won't ya show it to me?
Is love just getting stressed out
Over things that aren't mine?
If you really have answers
Then I got time
Perry, we met at the church
Your hair was long and brown
Do you still live in PR
Or do you live downtown?
We would talk about the bands
That nobody else knew
Is it true that you're close friends
With Kevin Drew?
I don't know
I'm just reaching
I hate our arguments
Will I see you again?
Is Walter still seeing things?
Hasn't he lost his mind?
If I never hear from you
I guess that's fine
Lisa, please just disregard
The stuff I said and wrote
Back then, life was pretty hard
Tell me, have you lost hope?
Anna, you're not the only
One on SSRIs
Are you not feelin' lonely?
It's in your eyes
I have thought
Of everyone
Cuz I just gotta know
I just gotta know
Hallelujah, how are you?
What are you tryin' to find?
I will tell you ev'rything
If you got time
A Asus2 Bm7 C#m#5 (x2)
D7sus2 D6omit3 C#m#5 Bm11 (x2)
x2
F#m Dsus2 F#m Dsus2 F#m G Dsus2 C#m#5addb2 Bm11
A Asus2 Bm7 C#m#5 (x2)
D7sus2 D6omit3 C#m#5 Bm11 (x2)
Thursday, October 16, 2014
I'd Be Worried Too
Wrapped in the gold
Praying for instant classics
Look what I found
Digging through the attic
Every summer, every winter
Every time I have the time
On the couch, there goes unnoticed
A man sleeping in his mind
Wrapped in the gold
Demanding cornfield nostalgia
Summertime blues
When all your ideas have failed ya
Every summer, I'd be worried
I'd be worried too if I were you
On the couch, he was a favorite
With a friend or 2...
But none of them are you
I wish I was
Wrapped in the gold once again
Living the dream
Before I had to pay rent
Before I had to talk
Before I had to love
Before I had to to do both at the same
Hey man, I'd be worried too
If I was in your shoes
G Em G Em
CM7 G Am C CM9/B Am
GM7 Emadd9 CM7 Am
(high time= GM7/B Esus2 C Am)
Praying for instant classics
Look what I found
Digging through the attic
Every summer, every winter
Every time I have the time
On the couch, there goes unnoticed
A man sleeping in his mind
Wrapped in the gold
Demanding cornfield nostalgia
Summertime blues
When all your ideas have failed ya
Every summer, I'd be worried
I'd be worried too if I were you
On the couch, he was a favorite
With a friend or 2...
But none of them are you
I wish I was
Wrapped in the gold once again
Living the dream
Before I had to pay rent
Before I had to talk
Before I had to love
Before I had to to do both at the same
Hey man, I'd be worried too
If I was in your shoes
G Em G Em
CM7 G Am C CM9/B Am
GM7 Emadd9 CM7 Am
(high time= GM7/B Esus2 C Am)
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